Some people are an elephant-sort-of-cheetah. They sit with a position on things for a long time, but almost out of nowhere, it changes and immediate action occurs in an instant. It can be jarring to others and catches them off guard. Like when, after many years of vocally not having any interest in remarrying (I already had 2 kids, a divorce, a blossoming but demanding career, and a home of my own), I said to my “boyfriend “ of 8 years (who conveniently lived across the street): “I think we should get married.” I thought he would fall off his chair! He wanted to but, knowing my negative view on remarrying, was concerned that I would regret the question and his answer. He said we should reconvene in 2 weeks so I could think more about it, which we did. I hadn’t changed my mind. After several months discussing the big “when” question, I called him from work on a Monday in January and said “how about Friday? It’s been 27-1/2 years since that Friday of being happily married. I cannot explain how my decision making kicks in so confidently after holding a different view for so long — or even what triggers it — but it happens in an instant and just feels right. (BTW, marrying my husband was the right decision. 🥰)
Some people are an elephant-sort-of-cheetah. They sit with a position on things for a long time, but almost out of nowhere, it changes and immediate action occurs in an instant. It can be jarring to others and catches them off guard. Like when, after many years of vocally not having any interest in remarrying (I already had 2 kids, a divorce, a blossoming but demanding career, and a home of my own), I said to my “boyfriend “ of 8 years (who conveniently lived across the street): “I think we should get married.” I thought he would fall off his chair! He wanted to but, knowing my negative view on remarrying, was concerned that I would regret the question and his answer. He said we should reconvene in 2 weeks so I could think more about it, which we did. I hadn’t changed my mind. After several months discussing the big “when” question, I called him from work on a Monday in January and said “how about Friday? It’s been 27-1/2 years since that Friday of being happily married. I cannot explain how my decision making kicks in so confidently after holding a different view for so long — or even what triggers it — but it happens in an instant and just feels right. (BTW, marrying my husband was the right decision. 🥰)
Some of my best decisions have been the years-in-the-making but spontaneous-in-the-moment sort too. I’m particularly happy you made this one. ❤️
This is so timely for me. Wow. I’m glad to know I’m not alone!!